You can tell the story of your wounds. Some of us have spent our adult lives retelling our wound story or stories over and over again. These tales of past wrongs, aggressions, diseases, accidents, pains, betrayals and losses only keep the wounds alive.
What if you stopped speaking of your woes and began to embrace your wounds?
Could your wounded spaces be the most precious places in your being?
How about if you look at whatever happened to you or is happening with you as a place that just needs more love.
That reminds me of a story
My Grandma Elda was the wisest, most loving person I’ve ever known. As a child, I noticed that my grandmother paid extra attention to my little brother Duffy. For many years I didn’t understand why and even allowed my Grandmother’s extra love of my brother to hurt me.
A little back story on my brother Duff. He was a little hellion, always causing trouble and creating drama. Here’s just a bit of what living with Duff’s energy was like…
On a beautiful summer day, we were playing with our best family friends the McCartys. All eleven of us kids were having fun running around, swimming, laughing and playing. My brother Duff was busy building a see-saw. When finished he got on it with his side-kick Pappy McCarty. They were going up and down when Pappy jumped off and Duff thudded to the ground.
He ran crying into our house to find dad who looked him over and began to notice Duff was having trouble breathing. Dad got down eye to eye with Duff and asked him if he’d had anything in his mouth when he fell. Duff shook his head no as his breathing continued to grow more labored.
Dad gathered Duff up and rushed him to the hospital emergency room 30-minutes away. X-rays showed Duff had inhaled a bolt and a quarter. The doctors sucked the items out of Duff’s lungs and sent him home. He never admitted to having anything in his mouth.
These stories were a common event with Duff
I thought he should receive less attention from my grandmother because he was always lying and misbehaving. With each Duff misadventure, I thought — when Grandma hears of this she’ll stop paying so much attention to that little problem child.
I was so wrong — the more Duff got in trouble the more grandma paid attention to him. One day I asked my grandmother, “Why do you spend so much time helping Duff? He’s bad and doesn’t deserve it.”
Words of Wisdom
My grandmother sat me on her lap and said the words I’ll never forget — “Your little brother is acting like that because he needs love and doesn’t know how to ask for it. He’s wounded and you’re wounded too. You just have fewer places that hurt and you are better at communicating your need for a little loving hug or a back rub. As you grow up you’ll know that all of us are wounded and we need to learn to love our own wounds so we can help others with their wounds.”
My grandmother gave me a big hug and said. “I love you.”
All of us are wounded
We need to learn to love our wounds so we can help others with their wounds. Those words have stayed with me my whole life. It is why I do my daily movement practice. I get on my mat daily to heal my wounds so I can be there for you with yours. Thanks, Grandma Elda. I love you, too!
Just think of how different the world would be if we all loved our own wounds so we could be available for others to heal theirs. I believe our world would look very different than it does today.
Are you ready to feel light and free in your body and soul?
Are you ready to heal yourself, others, and our struggling planet? You can’t help anything or anyone heal their wounds until you learn to love your own.
Your Wound Care Kit
Treat all your wounds — emotional, spiritual, internal, external, diseases, chronic conditions, obsessions, addictions, any kind of wound — just like you would a deep cut on your physical body.
#1. Stop and pay attention to it. Look it over and access the damage. Let your wounded spot know you are available to listen and give it what it needs.
#2. Clean out any debris — physical, emotional or spiritual. Actually visualize cleaning out the tender wounded spot wherever you feel it, your heart, your head, your big toe, wherever.
#3. Once clean rub that spot like you are putting a little antibiotic cream on your wound. Massage that area of your body or roll a ball there.
#4. Stitch it together with a big hug or a squeeze. Actually, hug that part of you — If you hurt all over — take a child’s pose and fold forward stitching you deeply into you.
#5. Move slowly, patiently allowing your wound to heal.
It’s time my dear
Time to love your wounds. if you want to jump-start your wound care program — Take a whole body journey with Michelle Andrie to love on one of the most wounded spaces in your body / being your pelvic bowl. Join in with this week’s Ageless Movement Practice.
As you move and apply the wound care kit, you’ll begin to sense your pelvis not as a pain-filled area with issues to avoid but as the most wondrous part of yourself.
Do this to feel light and free in your body and soul. AND you’ll have something helpful to offer others and our beautiful planet.
Let me know what causes you pain in the comments section below.