We all need a big cry right now
People are passing away this very moment from Covid-19. Alone in their hospital beds without family members to comfort them, cry over them, and express their love for them.
I received a post from a dear friend who’s Uncle passed away from Coronavirus. It slammed me full on in the chest and cracked open my heart when I realized how hard it must be to be dying in a hospital alone. Alone without anyone holding your hand, soothing your brow, and saying, “I love you.“
How extremely difficult it must be to know your loved one is dying alone in the hospital without your sweet caresses, loving words, and a chance to say good-bye.
My friend’s post that brought me to tears
Steve thought he was coming down with a common bug. He developed a light, wet cough, and an upset stomach. He felt increasingly tired.
After a couple of days, the 51-year-old man began feeling better, but then started having difficulty breathing. Getting out of bed and walking downstairs left him winded.
He likened the feeling to his large dog laying on his chest, he told his 20-year-old daughter, Elly.
Having previously undergone a kidney transplant, Steve focused on keeping hydrated.
Still, his illness did not seem serious. On March 27, Steve called his kidney doctor as a precaution, who recommended he go to the hospital and get examined. To his surprise, staff at the Hospital insisted on admitting him that day.
“He called me to tell me that they were going to sedate him and put him on a ventilator, and he sounded really scared,” Elly said, adding she could tell her father was trying not to show his fear, for her sake. “He told me that he loved me and that it would be OK.”
That was the last time Elly and her father spoke.
On April 6, after nearly two weeks of battling what testing later confirmed to be COVID-19, Steve died. He‘d turned 52 six days earlier.
“He was my best friend, my hero,” said Elly, who at 7 lost her mother in an ATV accident. She and her dad had been inseparable since. “He was my everything.”
Steve’s last visit with family was March 27, when his brother dropped him off at the Hospital because the virus is highly contagious, visitations are restricted at hospitals. Complications quickly arose. That night Steve survived two cardiac arrests, then his kidney began to fail.
On March 30, Steve’s birthday, Elly made her father a birthday card and dropped it off at the hospital, along with cupcakes for staff. Later that day he was transferred to another Hospital for more advanced dialysis treatment.
Doctors kept Steve heavily sedated from the day he was admitted and throughout his stay. Being unable to visit, to hold his hand and comfort him in person, was terrible, Elly said.
She called the hospital every morning and posted updates on Facebook for friends and family.
At night, nurses held the phone to his ear so that Elly could remind him how much she loved him. She told him they would get through his illness together, as they had through everything. She doesn’t know if her father heard her, but she hopes her words helped him in his last days.
After he died, hospital staff set up a Zoom call so Elly could see Steve one last time. A chaplain came in and prayed for him. Staff assured her Steve was not alone when he died.
A spokesman for the Hospital confirmed Steve tested positive for the novel coronavirus and urged the community to continue following public health guidelines.“We are deeply saddened by this outcome,” the statement said, “and our hearts remain with the patient’s family and friends.”
Grab your tissues
I know you …
… might have loved ones dying in the hospital alone.
… may have lost your business or your job.
… might be sheltering at home alone and feeling lonely.
… wish this Corona craziness would be over.
… possibly dream of getting a moment alone because you are sheltering in place with your family or someone who might even be toxic to you.
… worry about the future for yourself, your kids, your friends.
It’s time to have a good cry. Let it out! Allow your tears to flow. Give yourself permission to wail and moan. Let the snot run from your nose. Cry until you can’t cry anymore.
A good cry will –make you feel better!
When you don’t allow yourself a good cry and all your emotions to flow — your lower back can begin to hurt. If you’ve got lower back pain — Lower Back Bliss is the program for you.
But don’t believe me — listen to what Kimberly Sailor Williamson has to say about how Lower Back Bliss gave her the tools to release her lower back pain, feel her feelings and move emotionally and physically from anger to hope.
It’s time to open up your pelvic bowl, the energy center that holds your feelings to release your pent up tears with this week’s Ageless Movement Practice. Your hips and lower back will be so happy. Your whole being will feel cleansed.
What’s bringing you to tears right now? Let us know in the comment section below.